A Black Man Responds to a White Woman's Letter Alleging the Black Men Prefer White Women over Black Women

By Gloria Dulan-Wilson

I just want to thank the brother who wrote this wonderful tribute to Black Women - and truly hope you find the love of your life in a beautiful, deep dark chocolate sister who is smart, sweet, loving, sincere, sexy, spiritual, whole, harmonious, fun,  perfect (for you), and complete - and that you be a blessing to and for each other, and enjoy a long, loving successful marriage like Ossie Davis and Ruby Dee, Will and Jada Smith, Barack and Michelle Obama, Ruby and Warner Dulan (my parents), Silas and Zady Dulan (my grandparents - 63 years). 

I am posting this on my blog www.gloriadulanwilson.blogspot.com/ECLECTICALLY BLACK NEWS; sharing it on FaceBook, and emailing it to my friends - in hopes thy will likewise email it or share in some way with both their sons and daughters - as well as a few "old heads" who have left the tribe. 

Let me set the record straight on something the "white woman" said in her statement:  Berry Gordy's wife is not white - she is Brazilian and Black; Larry Fishburne's wife is Latina (Black) - don't get it twisted - it's still 1 tenth of one% of Black Blood that makes you Black - Black Blood is the most powerful blood on the planet.  It has the power to change everything with just one drop - don't let the pigmentation and hair grade fool you - there used to be a penchant for light skinned Black women to pass for white - some of the men did it too.  But Brazil - a country that is 80% African Blooded heritage - do the math. 

I've long since lost concern about Black men who marry white women - It's no longer my concern - I admit it used to infuriate me, until I deliberately went after a guy who was involved with a white woman. I was determined that he was too handsome, smart and powerful to be involved with her, so I took him - literally.  I "won."  And wow, what a mistake that was - sometimes people are where they are and who they are because of their mentality.  We made it for a short while, long enough for me to realize that that brother needed to be right where he was - he didn't or wouldn't work; he had no real interests or ambitions - he was just "handsome" - he talked a good game, but would not or could not walk in talk   Just like Black men like a strong Black women, we, too, like a strong, intelligent, resourceful, active Black man - we support each other - which is OKAY - but for me to carry him?  Not! Sent right back to Helga - where they lived happily ever after. 

I come from a family of FINE BLACK MEN - they're not just fine in terms of their good looks, but because they are educated, work hard, play hard, love hard, are spiritual, intellectual, proud of their Blackness, loyal to and supportive of their families.  My Dad, Granddads, Brother, Uncles, Cousins, handsome Son and handsome Son-In-Law = all FINE BLACK MEN - you know them when you see them.  I'm proud to know the difference between a playboy and a real man - and proud to have had the privilege of having wonderful, real Black men in my life. 

There are, I am sure, a great many sisters and brothers who can say the same.  So we need to make this a MUTUAL ADMIRATION SOCIETY.  Give each other kudos, props, respect, love, and support.

STAY BLESSED &

ECLECTICALLY BLACK

Gloria

On Thu, Jul 31, 2014 at 12:35 AM, <Cpohio1940@aol.com> wrote:

News

A white woman asks why Black men want her, and a Black man responds

 

POSTED ON JULY 29, 2014 BY STAFF IN NEWS, RELATIONSHIPS 

This article was written in Sister2Sister Magazine by a white woman who explained her attraction to Black men.  She also explained why Black men are likely to choose women like her over Black women.  After the letter was written, a Black male gave his response.  The initial letter and response are both listed below:

Dear Jamie: I’m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of Black female’s attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes… I could go on and on. But, right now, I’m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I’m wrong, Black men, let me know. Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA RESPONSE

Here is his response:

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Dear Jamie: I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful Black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why Black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, Brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of Brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.

Because of this fear, many Black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong Black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire Black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when Black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.

Read your history! It was the Black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was Black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being Black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the Black women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my Black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the Black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given. Signed, Black Royalty Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens and remind our Black Kings of what they have Old..! 

This indeed was a great letter.  And, again I applaud the brother who wrote it.  And to my Black sisters, be yourselves, be proud of who you are, wear your natural beauty and show your wonder talents and creativity - don't imitate the imitators.  
Stay Blessed & ECLECTICALLY BLACK -
Gloria 

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